They say, marriages are made in heaven..

Umm… I’m not too sure.. Maybe it means that a bit fat Indian wedding makes one feel like in heaven, well at least for a day..

There is a lot of hype around marriage in our country which is just a 1 day to 1 week event. What is going to be celebrated for more than half of your lifetime is “companionship”, which I believe does not get the attention it deserves.

1. Choosing a companion and not a spouse..

While our decision may be biased towards choosing a guy loaded with money, nice family, well educated, plush job and settled abroad, none of this assures a good companion for life. 

Choose someone who has a positive outlook about life and in general. Someone who appreciates the little things in life.

Choose someone who doesn’t find fault in everything you do and you don’t feel the necessity to prove your worth every single day.

Choose someone who supports you for being you and encourages you to be a better version of yourself every passing day. 

2. Finding common interests. 

Watching Netflix, an outdoor activity or even a Tik Tok video that you both enjoy doing together. For most couples the only topic of common interest after a child is born becomes the “child”. Taking the kid for swimming classes together does not qualify as a common interest. Going on a road trip without the kid does! Cannot stress the importance of spending time together after a long and stressful day. Choose someone who makes that effort and yet makes it look effortless.

3. Confrontation and communication 

Most of the times we choose to remain silent and expect the partner to understand and act! Better to say it if you don’t like it, ask what you want and confront if you don’t feel right. It’s pointless to sit and sulk. Choose someone who confronts and communicates without wasting time. 

Whether marriages are made in heaven or not, you got to wake up with this guy every single day for the rest of your life. So better be worth it!